The Mother in Me is the Mother in You

Felizitas Stilleke & Friends

© Graziela Diez

08. Mai 2022, ab 18.00 Uhr – Annett & Ari Hardegen mit Musik von lint
As long as Ari (16) puts his feet under Annett’s (52) table, there are no taboos. And when Felizitas (38) joins them, they add a big load of sushi and the desire to chat together across generations and classifications. With open ears and mostly full mouths.

02. Juni 2022, ab 18.00 Uhr – Linda Fisahn, Christian Fleck & Lis Marie Diehl


Session with Smruthi Gargi Eswar (in English):
Divorced, childless, single… Although Smu and Felizitas share all these attributes, they have never talked about them as friends. It’s time to do so and dream up an image of motherhood that also has a place for non-mothers.
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Look here for more about Felizitas‘ encounter with Smu and her »Sister Misfortune« tarot card set.

Session with Daniel Ernesto Müller-Torres:
On a Greek island Daniel and Felizitas locate not only their friendship, but also their vision of a Chosen Family. It is the story of a rainbow family with all its resolutions, separations and debates that has made its way here. Underwater Love!
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Session with Monika Gintersdorfer
interview with Ordinateur & Alex Cephus
When is motherhood responsible?, Monika asks herself for a very long time in her life and comes to an important realization for her (too) late. Together with Felizitas, she looks back on her eventful life and wanders questioningly through relationship landscapes across continents.
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Session with Philine Velhagen:
As the first and so far only biological mother in this series, Philine invites you to a playful confrontation around the female cycle and the „clubs“ of the like-minded and renegades. It will be painful, but also liberating – how could it be otherwise?
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Session with Thais di Marco
interview with Ekedi Gunzolandê & Ekedi Gueregy (in English)
Thais!Kaloya!Nobody! has many names. So does her approach to motherhood. As a member of the Brazilian Candomblé community, she provides exciting insights from a diasporic world where motherhood roots itself in a community quite differently than Felizitas is able to even think.
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Felizitas Stilleke aunt, curator, dramaturg, artist and person, gathers in herself in seven performative podcast sessions voices of international artists for a collective discourse rededication. Searching for words for not-yet/not-more/maybe/motherhood, each recording illuminates the continuum between patriarchal and extended motherhood in a new settup – and with a tarot card set for listeners at home.

»…as a woman, 37 – tick tock tick tock, wtf – single, childless – who makes up words like that? – divorced, I am apparently looking for – hahaha, no way, nothing! – Although nevertheless, I am urgently looking for a way out of the binary thinking that says someone is a mother or not – or has to become one to become something – or was it exactly the other way around ?…«

Are mothers legible? Is mother a verb? Where in the body sits the desire to have children? Why is it possible on Tinder to specify „has no children, but may want some“ but not „has no children, but may not want any“? Is motherhood choice or something that just (doesn’t) happen? What pauses at menopause? Do mothers who have abortions mutate? Can queer narratives overcome the patriarchal either/or, pros and cons?

In the sessions, there will be a gamble for everything and then for nothing. The encounters belong to a year-long research that now goes from the private to a public, leaving nothing out: environment, sexuality, work, politics, money, career, love and simply life – because no topic does not end up with motherhood.

with Thais di Marco, Philine Velhagen, Smruthi Gargi Eswar, Monika Gintersdorfer, Daniel Ernesto Müller-Torres, Annett & Ari Hardegen, Linda Fisahn mit Christian Fleck & Lis Marie Diehl and many others by and with Felizitas Stilleke Sounddesign, music Miguel Toro, Christian Fleck (Session Smu & Sessions 4 + 7), Björn Stegmann (Sessions 5 + 6) Jingle & vocals song session 5 barner16 Voice jingle Wikiriot Setdesign Anahí Pérez Livestream Matthias Krause, Sebastian Pablo Poloni Production management Franziska Janke Thanks to Bettina Andrae, barner16, George Demir, Daniela Dröscher, Louis Häming, Marc Fischer, Martje Friedrich, Dr. Colin Kehrer, Anja Kreher, Sarah Israel, Julia Knopp, Elisa Liepsch, Peggy Mädler, Gabriel Milliet, Maria Nübling, Tina Pfurr, Antje Prust, Wilma Renfordt, Ben J. Riepe, Maria Rößler, Merel Smitt, Sandra Umathum, Avril Stormy Unger, Anna-Lena Wenzel, ocelot book store Berlin, the Ballhaus Ost crew and my (whale-)family

A production by Felizitas Stilleke in cooperation with Ballhaus Ost. Funded by Hauptstadtkulturfonds, District Office Pankow, Office for Further Education and Culture – Department of Arts and Culture – and a working and research grant of the Berlin Senate Department for Culture and Europe. Resumption 2022 funded by the #TakeHeart program of Fonds Darstellende Künste with funds from the Federal Government Commissioner for Culture and the Media as part of NEUSTART Kultur.

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